She explained, that although some of the fault for the problem was hers, the bulk of the blame had to go to someone else.
She was surprised at what I told her.
"Forgive them, when you do, the anger dissipates and the solutions will come. Anger darkens your mind so much you cannot "see" how to proceed correctly. Your anger will keep you from the answers you need. And the best way to forgive someone is to be grateful...they go hand in hand. Be grateful and you can forgive, forgive, and you will see all your blessings, gifts and opportunities. The solutions are there....but you need light to see them, and your anger has made that impossible."
Forgiveness works....it clears you to see your preferred path.
Because gratitude gives forgiveness a place to grow.